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I Don’t Know What to Say! What Should I Say

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The first time you meet a friend who has recently lost a spouse or other family member, you find it very difficult to know what to say.  Remember that your friend probably feels similarly out of their depth while carrying a heavy load of grief.  Take the initiative and reach out first. 

Start with saying that you are sorry about their loss of a loved one – and say their name.

Relate a happy memory of the person who has recently died.  Sharing these stories helps the grieving move through their struggle to cope with their new life.  Don’t deny the past – it is part of what makes us who we are and our shared history.

Focus on asking how the survivor is coping.  Don’t just say, “Let me know if there is anything I can do for you.”  Give some examples of things you would be prepared to do: Can I take you to the store or out to lunch?  Can I do your ironing?  Would you like me to mow your yard?  “Think about it and let me know”.  Then follow up later by phone to repeat the offer.

If words fail you, a hug can say so much!  Those who are grieving are also missing physical contact.

 Reflections of Life Articles: Fall 2022

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NorthStar’s Shining Lights Interns and Outcomes

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You Make the Magic Happen

During the month of September the St. Francis Foundation reminded each staff member that they hold a wand of goodness and love. Each year we celebrate the commitment staff have in service to patients and families and honor them for their gifts over the year. Our staff members know first-hand some of the very needs …

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Holiday Tips

If you find yourself grieving the death of someone close to you, the thought of the holiday can be very overwhelming but there are things you can do to prepare. Be honest with how you are feeling to people close to you. If you agree to plans allow yourself the ability to not go of …

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Reflections of Love 2022

You are invited to join us for a beautiful free community memorial celebration and tree lighting in honor of those whose memory we will always cherish. November 17, 2022 at 6 pm Cocoa Riverfront Park, 401 Riveredge Blvd., Cocoa, Florida. For more information visit: Reflectionslsc.org/ROL2022 or text: ROL2022 to 41444.

Community Health Accreditation Program (CHAP)

St. Francis Reflections works diligently to care for patients and seeks to provide the safety and quality each person deserves. Our most recent unannounced surveys by CHAP in two St. Francis Reflections sites were unscheduled visits.  The outcome of both survey visits were no citations or findings. The average number of citations from CHAP nationally …

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Bonded with Love

Gifts come in many forms to foundations. Just recently St. Francis received some lovely savings bonds from a donor’s estate. This donor had been thoughtful in putting aside monthly through savings bonds over the years. It reminds me of having a piggy bank when I was a kid and putting money aside and then every once in a while taking it out and counting what was the grand total.
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