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Grieving is messy and difficult. We like things easy with clear steps to follow. This is why many people gravitate to the “5 Stage of Grief” by Elizabeth Kübler-Ross when they are grieving. Most people do not realize those stages were actually created to explain what the person who is dying goes through, not the grief those who are left behind actually experience.

The grief felt after the death of a loved one is far more involved than five steps, which often leads people to believe, they are grieving wrong. There is no “right or wrong” way to the feelings one experiences when they are grieving and there is not a timeframe. Many feel if they make it through the emotions, and challenges of the first year after the death, things “should be better”. The truth is often people will find the second year more difficult to navigate than the first. Grief triggers can come from a smell, a song or even food can bring up unexpected emotions. We want grief to be easy and linear but in reality, it is far messier. If you are grieving, take care of yourself by give yourself grace and patience. It helps to talk with people you trust about what you experiencing and going through.

 Reflections of Life Articles: Summer 2023

DASH to Celebrate Veterans Day 2023

What could be better than enjoying sunshine and fresh air with your family and friends in a beautiful park while honoring local Veterans? At 7:30 am on November 11, 2023, The DASH in Life 5K will kick-off a full day of Veterans Day activities at Brevard Veterans Memorial Park. This idyllic course is flat, scenic, …

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Life Changing Gift of Dignity

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Serving Brevard for 45 years

What began as a dream of helping neighbors almost fifty years ago is turning 45 this year. Emilie Sasko was a nurse, volunteer, mother of 12 and a dreamer. She had a dream that she was being called to create a hospice, and supported by her deep faith, family and friends, founded the second hospice …

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When Angels Get Their WINGS

Wonderful. Inspiring. Notable. Gracious. Service. These words are frequently used to describe our staff at St. Francis Reflections Lifestage Care. We treasure these words in our hearts. Another phrase that we often hear from patients and families is, “You are our Angels.” “You are our Angels” inspired the WINGS Recognition Program. WINGS was created to …

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Memorial Day to Remember

By: Chandler Langevin, Veteran Services Coordinator Memorial Day is a very sacred time for staff and volunteers at St. Francis Reflections. As part of our ongoing commitment to Veterans, we traveled throughout Brevard County to render honors to those who made the ultimate sacrifice for our nation. Here are some of my highlights from the …

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We LOVE our Volunteers

Our volunteers are a diverse array of caring individuals including working professionals, retirees, stay-at-home parents, students, and people who are exploring new careers and building new skill sets. Those who are interested in volunteering must be dependable, friendly and compassionate. It is not necessary to have medical or hospice experience. Each volunteer is asked to …

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The Staircase

Michael Brian Horton May 30, 2016 Last night I had myself a dreamI still can see it nowA staircase stood before meSpiraling up into the cloudsIts wood was worn and weatheredBut had stood the tests of timeAnd I came upon a young man thereAs I began to climbHis uniform colonialHis tri cornered hat pulled downHe …

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